Have you ever really loved a woman?
I don't particularly like the scene where Mr Big marries another woman instead of Carrie Bradshaw from Sex & the City but somehow that episode has a lasting impression at the back of my mind.
I remember how I used to watch Carrie and felt uber sad for her when her only constant in her almost perfect life was to wait for Mr Big, a man who is often unable to return her feelings in the way she had hoped he would, a man who often disappoints her time after time, a man who eventually broke her heart when he chose to marry someone else instead of her.
She understood almost immediately that she was never meant to play a significant part in his life when he chose to marry the other woman because he truly loves her. She knows Mr Big loves the wife when he chose to play Bryan Adams' Have you ever really loved a woman on the wedding day.
I can only imagine her hurt then. I enjoy Bryan Adam's Have you ever really loved a woman the most among his other great hits. That is the one song that speaks volume of what a man is really like when he really loves a woman. Sometimes it is not what a man says that touches us, the emotional creatures the most, it is what they do and what they are willing to give up for you that touches us the most. Words are cheap, in fact according to my mum, free. They hold no real meaning until the maker of the statement or the person giving those words fulfill them or materialize them.
In fact, I don't see honouring one's words as something that is just part and parcel of a relationship but rather it is part and parcel of every relationship you share, be it the relationship you share with your family, the other half and your friends. We should always honour our words and if we can't honour them, then don't utter them, why build other's expectations to only let them down in the end?
A relationship if taken seriously, can be fortified 100 times if each party to the relationship makes the effort to do more and say less, makes the effort to build expectations only if they are willing to materialize them and because only when you truly mean it, we will know for actions will show.
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