It's better to be talked about than not talked about

In the real world, everyone gets bitched about every now and then, and the sad truth may be that you don't even know the other person very well or that you've never done anything bad to the other person, that's just life.

One quirky Russian girl, Natasha from ANTM's cycle 8 taught me at least something positive about being bitched about, that is, it is better to be talked about than to not be talked about because this means that you're noticed (and illustrates also that people are clearly jealous of you).

Another thing life has shown me thus far is, karma, we all reap what we sow and for every seed of doubt you plant, there are consequences.

Rumours, gossips are scary and to put them in legal term, they are but hearsay. The one thing I've learnt about hearsay is they are unreliable evidences that cannot be presented to court because the maker of the statement cannot be cross-examined to verify whatever he/she has said in court and as such they are not admissible evidence.

Fairness and justice requires for the person to stand before the court, to be challenged for his/her statement that concerns the accused (otherwise it won't be relevant evidence) and in a way it gives the accused a chance to hear what has exactly been said in court, in his presence and in a way it gives him (his defence counsel) the opportunity to cast doubt on the witness's statements.

But that's not the case in life, is it? People bitch about you for whatever reason (and yes it's so sad that they've only have the guts to do so behind your back) and you don't get your shot at refuting them.

The only consolation is, with time people will see you for who you are and also that people who know you for who you are will not buy these juicy gossips / rumours.

Character assasination is old and sometimes I wish people will just concentrate on their lives and not live and thrive on gossips / rumours. That's just so high school and we all need to grow up.

I mean if you don't have anything nice to say about somebody, don't say it. Adhere to Grice's maxims and you'll become a better person that way. And this is no uphill fight, why should it be? Gossips does not (contrary to popular beliefs) make us look better or make us much more superior than others.

But all that being said, I do acknowledge that we can never stop anyone from shooting their mouths off, all that we can do is to love thy enemy and to forgive thy enemy and just hope that one day these people will see the light and just stop planting seeds of doubt in others and causing unnecessary tension and realise that with time, people will surely be able to see through them and know what kind of person they really are. And believe it or not, individuals practising such abusive acts suffer mightily because they can't focus on their own personal lives, their work suffers and they may suffer from stiff necks from watching their backs when their victims strike back. Hence if there's anything that's worth practising it's self-censorship, watch what you say, keep your mouth closed, do not make a bad situation worse, that way you'll be more likeable and other aspects of your life will gradually become better for all these good karma you've accummulated. It's just so not worth it when you get karmatized (I know there's no such word) just to make things bad for others because when karma bites, being sorry's not good enough.

I've been tagged by Dom, here are the 6 weird things about myself which perhaps no one knows?

1. I am a rebel at heart

2. I am a selective risk taker though I seem risk adverse to most, but I'm just waiting for the right opportunity and the appropriate risk to come along before I leap on it!

3. Though a Christian by faith, I don't always trust the people working for the church because some part of me sometimes feel some people are there for their personal interests and this has led to me developing my own set of logical (or so I think) beliefs on Christian faith.

4. I'm "married" to Orlando Bloom *HAHAHA*

5. The longest I've slept was 2 days in a row and mind you, I did not even get up to visit the toilet.

6. I want to dress up as Gundam Seed's Cagali!

Now I wanna tag Kelvin Goh and Shangli!!! Hee~!~