I've been brought up to believe that good will always triumph over evil and I still believe in that.

"Happiness is as a butterfly which when pursued is always beyond our grasp, but which if you will sit down quietly may alight upon you." - Nathaniel Hawthorne

I get so tired of people lying to me and finding out they lied.

Liars are toxins in my system, I need to purge each and every one of you out of my system because you're all hurting me.

"I work for money, you want loyalty? Go get a dog" - Quote of the day!!!

"Had to move on because you've moved on, there's nothing left to hope for, nothing left to embrace"

Someone said that to me, not too long ago, sometime this year, when he was feeling the hurt the most he called and conveyed this message to me. I know this is way too long overdue but here goes:

To him: I am truly sorry, still am and I just want you to know that.

If I can turn back the hands of clock, I wish we've never met, that way, things will be a lot easier for you and you will probably be a lot happier for that many good years of your life.

From the bottom of my heart, please always be happy, you deserve to be happy.

Some people don't solve problems, they just magnify them and make matters worse.

I need problem solvers, not problem whiners.

Have you ever really loved a woman?

I don't particularly like the scene where Mr Big marries another woman instead of Carrie Bradshaw from Sex & the City but somehow that episode has a lasting impression at the back of my mind.

I remember how I used to watch Carrie and felt uber sad for her when her only constant in her almost perfect life was to wait for Mr Big, a man who is often unable to return her feelings in the way she had hoped he would, a man who often disappoints her time after time, a man who eventually broke her heart when he chose to marry someone else instead of her.

She understood almost immediately that she was never meant to play a significant part in his life when he chose to marry the other woman because he truly loves her. She knows Mr Big loves the wife when he chose to play Bryan Adams' Have you ever really loved a woman on the wedding day.

I can only imagine her hurt then. I enjoy Bryan Adam's Have you ever really loved a woman the most among his other great hits. That is the one song that speaks volume of what a man is really like when he really loves a woman. Sometimes it is not what a man says that touches us, the emotional creatures the most, it is what they do and what they are willing to give up for you that touches us the most. Words are cheap, in fact according to my mum, free. They hold no real meaning until the maker of the statement or the person giving those words fulfill them or materialize them.

In fact, I don't see honouring one's words as something that is just part and parcel of a relationship but rather it is part and parcel of every relationship you share, be it the relationship you share with your family, the other half and your friends. We should always honour our words and if we can't honour them, then don't utter them, why build other's expectations to only let them down in the end?

A relationship if taken seriously, can be fortified 100 times if each party to the relationship makes the effort to do more and say less, makes the effort to build expectations only if they are willing to materialize them and because only when you truly mean it, we will know for actions will show.

There will always be temptations around, it's a matter of knowing and wanting to resist them or not.

Lying doesn't solve anything. Lying is not a solution. Lying is just lying.

I want to be fun again. Someone help me?

I honestly think that Victoria's Secret should invite Nelly Furtado to their show this year to perform Maneater on the show as those gorgeous models strut the walkway!

"She's a maneater, make you work hard, make you spend hard, make you want more of her love...."

Parfait song! What say you?

"You can't just go around breaking hearts just because you can" - Anonymous friend

The Kate Moss Talk: Reasons why you can't buy Topshop's Kate Moss collection clothes

Friend: Why do you think people all rush out to buy the Kate Moss collection clothes when they don't exactly suit everyone and some of them are just hideous!

Me: Because everyone's trying to be Kate Moss.

Friend: But they are not Kate Moss and somehow some of the stuff look hideous on a normal person, worst on Asians but lovely on Kate Moss.

Me: Yes that's why it's called the Kate Moss collection?

Friend: ......She's a narcissicist!

Me: I'm sure she knows that already.

Friend: ... ... I'm never gonna get kate moss-ed.

Oh no, I've not stopped blogging! Just watch this space! I'll be back in a few days time!

It's better to be talked about than not talked about

In the real world, everyone gets bitched about every now and then, and the sad truth may be that you don't even know the other person very well or that you've never done anything bad to the other person, that's just life.

One quirky Russian girl, Natasha from ANTM's cycle 8 taught me at least something positive about being bitched about, that is, it is better to be talked about than to not be talked about because this means that you're noticed (and illustrates also that people are clearly jealous of you).

Another thing life has shown me thus far is, karma, we all reap what we sow and for every seed of doubt you plant, there are consequences.

Rumours, gossips are scary and to put them in legal term, they are but hearsay. The one thing I've learnt about hearsay is they are unreliable evidences that cannot be presented to court because the maker of the statement cannot be cross-examined to verify whatever he/she has said in court and as such they are not admissible evidence.

Fairness and justice requires for the person to stand before the court, to be challenged for his/her statement that concerns the accused (otherwise it won't be relevant evidence) and in a way it gives the accused a chance to hear what has exactly been said in court, in his presence and in a way it gives him (his defence counsel) the opportunity to cast doubt on the witness's statements.

But that's not the case in life, is it? People bitch about you for whatever reason (and yes it's so sad that they've only have the guts to do so behind your back) and you don't get your shot at refuting them.

The only consolation is, with time people will see you for who you are and also that people who know you for who you are will not buy these juicy gossips / rumours.

Character assasination is old and sometimes I wish people will just concentrate on their lives and not live and thrive on gossips / rumours. That's just so high school and we all need to grow up.

I mean if you don't have anything nice to say about somebody, don't say it. Adhere to Grice's maxims and you'll become a better person that way. And this is no uphill fight, why should it be? Gossips does not (contrary to popular beliefs) make us look better or make us much more superior than others.

But all that being said, I do acknowledge that we can never stop anyone from shooting their mouths off, all that we can do is to love thy enemy and to forgive thy enemy and just hope that one day these people will see the light and just stop planting seeds of doubt in others and causing unnecessary tension and realise that with time, people will surely be able to see through them and know what kind of person they really are. And believe it or not, individuals practising such abusive acts suffer mightily because they can't focus on their own personal lives, their work suffers and they may suffer from stiff necks from watching their backs when their victims strike back. Hence if there's anything that's worth practising it's self-censorship, watch what you say, keep your mouth closed, do not make a bad situation worse, that way you'll be more likeable and other aspects of your life will gradually become better for all these good karma you've accummulated. It's just so not worth it when you get karmatized (I know there's no such word) just to make things bad for others because when karma bites, being sorry's not good enough.

I've been tagged by Dom, here are the 6 weird things about myself which perhaps no one knows?

1. I am a rebel at heart

2. I am a selective risk taker though I seem risk adverse to most, but I'm just waiting for the right opportunity and the appropriate risk to come along before I leap on it!

3. Though a Christian by faith, I don't always trust the people working for the church because some part of me sometimes feel some people are there for their personal interests and this has led to me developing my own set of logical (or so I think) beliefs on Christian faith.

4. I'm "married" to Orlando Bloom *HAHAHA*

5. The longest I've slept was 2 days in a row and mind you, I did not even get up to visit the toilet.

6. I want to dress up as Gundam Seed's Cagali!

Now I wanna tag Kelvin Goh and Shangli!!! Hee~!~

"Buried by my work, uh no, I mean married to my work"

*hehehe*

"Married is better than buried right?"

*hur ha ha*

*Substitute 'Guy' with 'Girl' as you wish

Message: Sometimes we just need to be aware of what is important to us and not get distracted by other unimportant things because sometimes when you lose something/someone, you lose it/him or her for good.

Chances Are

Friend: Chances of a regular bloke like me dating a lawyer girlfriend (Proper: Girlfriend who's a lawyer) in Singapore are like what? 5%?

Me: And why so?

Friend: Well look at the number of lawyers we have in Singapore forget about those who's already in the industry, they are too old for me, so since the number of lawyers called every year are well below the magic number 300 including all you overseas peeps and contrast that with all the NUS, SMU, NTU, SIM graduates in all other disciplines, the chances are just, you know 5%, hm..then again on second thoughts, it may just be 1%! ok maybe 0% since I've only got like 2 lawyer friends and unless I turn gay for the other one and unless you break up with your boyfriend soon, my chances are 0%. OMG if I were your boyfriend I will so treasure you!! He's like so privileged, like one of the few selected ones....

Me: ...........

Friend: Hm..then maybe you can up my chances by introducing your lawyer girlfriends to me! I mean lawyers are not very good with maths and economics right? I am! etc etc etc

Me: .......................................................................

Sometimes I think I have a rather strange set of friends and what say you?

"It is better to have some principles than to have no principle at all."

Today's Ben & Jerry's day, where everyone gets a free scoop of Ben & Jerry's! Ultimate indulgence! Went to Cathay's Ben & Jerry's with da mee and did the typically Singaporean thing, to queue for a free scoop of ultimate indulgence!

The queue was crazy, it went all the way up to the 3rd floor of Cathay when B&J's located on the 2nd floor! See how much Singaporeans love ice cream? Hehe ah well, the only good thing is we waited only about 15 minutes for our scoop of heaven!

And oh, while waiting, we made donation to this charity organisation, which B&J supports and am raising funds for, I can't remember the name of the organisation but all I remember is they raise funds for kids whose brains are damaged or severely injured.

Hur hur hur! And obviously at the end of it we were very satisfied and not to mention happy :) Cheap thrill! Well gets me all the time!

Your very happy typical Singaporeans!

Thank you Ben & Jerry's For Making Our Day!

Maybe it is just in me

I think the ability to be content is the best gift God has ever given to me. It prevents me from reaching for more than what I can take and it keeps me happy all the time because I am satisfied with most of my life save for the troubles and worries but well they come and go so no biggie, not like they are permanently draining me off my energy.

I think a lot of people destroy themselves by being greedy, sometimes overly greedy and the problem with being greedy is you don't and won't know when to stop. More often than not, people lose a lot of great things along the way of their route of desires.

Sometimes everything is nothing and nothing is everything. Sometimes being easily content is everything. Maybe I just want a simple life, a life where I am happy all the time and not a life where I have to stress over how to get x amount of things by when and waste my energy away thinking of all the good things I'll be getting if I have x amount of stuff. Maybe I just prefer cherishing what I have and leaving my fate in the hands of God, maybe I just believe that how much a person gets to earn / keep in his/her lifetime is totally up to God.

Maybe, I just am not interested in the blings blings and all the vain pleasures of the world, maybe I just want to keep those materialistic people away from me that way I'll always have genuine company. So long as I'm well fed, well looked after, have a good relationship with people I care about, have a healthy and happy life, having a decent job earning an okay salary, what more can I ask for?

Sometimes the vain pleasures of the world are not what we should seek to be hungry for, for sometimes all they ever bring are misfortunes, many years down the road, you might have attained most of these vain pleasures of the world, you might have already been someone significant, you might think you would then be the happiest person on earth, but is that true? Will you truly still be happy? What if you lose all that matters to you and gained nothing but vain pleasures of the world. Strip yourself of these worldly pleasures what are you left with?

I say no thank you to all these corruptive worldy possessions and I say welcome all the happy mushy warm feelings of happiness deep within that shines through me so ever brightly that they themselves are the biggest blingblings you've ever seen in your life!

Always remember you are special, just like everyone else. And then you wonder how are you special / unique when you are just like everyone else.

Well intrinsically, we are all different individuals, no two beings can be said to be perfectly homogenous not even twins but then extrinsically, we share the common factor of each and every of us being different from one another, with everyone else.

It's not complicated really, the notion is simply, while on the one hand each and every one of us shares nothing in common based on our individuality, on the other hand, we do share something in common in that we share nothing in common!

Inference from the above passage: Libby's bored and thus the reason for her rambling repetitiveness.

Quote of the day: With half the race gone, there is still half the race to go!! (whee!!)

"Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them, too - even when you're in the dark. Even when you are falling" - Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom

It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation. - Herman Melville

1. You know school is crap when you raise a question in the aim of being enlightened by your learned professor at law school and to which the response is:-

Professor: Enlighten you? Hahaha, if I am enlightened myself first...(those are not the exact words but somewhat close to whatever he said, can't really remember if he said if I can be enlightened first or if I am even enlightened myself etc etc)

2. You know school is crap when your professor dodge your question a few times (you had to ask the same question a few times, no, not even paraphrasing the questions, just repetition)

3. You know school is a complete waste of time for reasons 1 & 2 and last but not least, you walk away from the seminar not knowing the answer to your question.

Somehow times like these really make me feel a lot better that I was educated at University of Manchester and not locally, at least even though some of the seminar takers at University of Manchester (then when I was around) might not always be right or have all the answers at their finger tips, they make a point to go find the legal position on your question, discuss with the course directors and get back to you with what they've found and most of the time, they add on their two cents on the correct legal position, sometimes arguing against the legal position sometimes further justifying the legal position when in favour of it.

And at the very least, professors in Manchester law school never dodged issues that are uncertain or issues to which they have no answers to, at the very least, they give their point of views or what they think the direction of the law would be after evaluating all the possible options and burying their heads into piles and piles of journals/caselaw etc. I mean that's why you go to school for, yes no?

Just when you think lawyers are trained to think on their feet, professors as such proves you otherwise. Just when you think whatever that sets professors apart from those they teach is that they are a little more intelligent than the mean average of those they teach, times like these, you really wonder if professors are indeed wiser than the mean average of those they teach, I mean isn't he as clueless as I am? Making me teach my peers without first addressing my concerns on points that I myself am not clear of simply makes me wonder why am I paying him to make me teach, why not he pay me and my other peers since he's making us teach everyone (and that includes him too).

After so many years, who would have thought that I would still be missing him since the day Dad gave him away. Charlie's an absolute sweetheart apart from being my puppy and I watched him grew then, he was smart, accommodating, forgiving, he was my great playmate and he was the one and only pup I looked forward running home to every single day after school. I love him so very much. The good thing about reminiscing times spent with him is I get to relive those happy moments but the downside is I miss him terribly to the extent I feel my heart ache a little every single time I think of him. I miss him. I really do.

"I never realised I was so close to losing you until it happened. And then without a sign, everything that made me happy was gone. Reflecting, I often wonder what is it exactly that I've done wrong to make things between us go bad. Then I realised it's not about what I've done but rather what I've not been doing, keeping you close to my heart by cherishing you. Never thought you would actually leave me but when you did, I realised no one else in this lifetime can make me any more happier than you did and now that you're gone, all I feel is a void because you've filled up every inch of my heart since a long time ago."

Friend was complaining to me about his obnoxious girlfriend who seems to be affected by the many insignificant little things in life for e.g. Friendster account.

Friend's status on friendster is set as complicated ie. 'it's complicated', girlfriend was visibly upset with it and I can totally understand her exasperation for you are either in a relationship or you are not, what is so complicated about that?

Relationships are particularly complicated only when someone is not in 'a' relationship but in multiple relationships and/or they are seeing someone unofficially or on a casual basis with absolutely no strings attached.

I guess when you are in love and am involved with someone, the first thing you probably would do is to tell your friends about your new boyfriend / girlfriend, you will unequivocally confer that him /her the boyfriend / girlfriend status and there's absolutely no room for doubts that you might still be available somehow (which is why some girls do get upset when boyfriends stick with the status of being single: which reads woo-hoo ladies out there I'm still a swinging bachelor or worse change the status to being it's complicated: which reads well I'm sort of in a relationship hmm...then maybe not why don't you ask me and find out or I'm not in 'a' relationship but in multiple relationships.)

It's not about being all superficial judging your girl/guy's affections with friendster account but it does say something yes no? Well at least it does to me, which reminds me I have to get my guy to change his status to being in a relationship soon before my imagination runs riot or before friend starts labelling me as the psychotic girl who's disillusioned and demented again because apparently I am the only one in the supposedly relationship who thinks she is in a relationship with him where in actual fact, it's a one sided affair, haha!

I mean come on folks, you love that person enough to want to be involved with him/her but you can't just unequivocally declare you are in a relationship with him/her? It's a little farcical, it's like how the preacher once preached that if a man loves you enough to be with you but loves you not enough to tell you he loves you then you are better off without him. (The preacher is damn cool la, he says he tells his wife he loves her in the morning, in the afternoon and in the night because he loves her but I think he's doing that to remind her in case she forgets)

Sometimes in a relationship, it's not the big wayang things that matter but rather the little insignificant things that matter most. And before you go on and argue superficiality or what other preposterous reasons you can come up with for insisting on putting up your single / complicated status, just put yourself in the other person's shoes. Or maybe let's forget about friendster let's just change the situation a little, say someone asks your girlfriend if she's attached, to which she replies, well you know it's complicated or well it's just status does it really matter? Now it shouldn't be too difficult to see why it matters yes no? Interpret it in 101 ways (1) she's not sure if she's with you (2) why should she go around declaring she's all snapped up (3) you don't matter (4) it's really just status honey, does it matter if friends know?

FYI: It's complicated status is not meant for gays. Gays do use in a relationship status too. Don't get it twisted!

Don't Leave Me In Love -Dierks Bentley

I know things haven't gone like you planned
And for that I'm partly to blame
You didn't want to fall in love not yet
Cause you've still got so many dreams to chase

And love is a double edged sword
It lets you walk though life feeling content
But that's a feeling you say you can't afford
And you'd be better off bein lonely again

Chorus:
But please don't leave me
Leave me in love
Before you walk away break my heart
Let me give you up
If you need your freedom
To find yourself
Release me from these chains of love
Lord knows I need your help

But please don't leave me
Don't leave me in love

You ask if you can hold me one last time
Sweetheart, you know I can't resist
You say tonight we'll fall asleep as lovers
But tomorrow we'll wake up as friends

Chorus Bridge:
How can I ever love somebody new
If I can't get my heart back from you

So please don't leave me
Don't leave me, don't leave me
Don't leave me in love
Don't leave me in love
Don't leave me

Once in a while, just once in a while, I like to be excessively indulgent in being nice...and sometimes that drives people nuts and sometimes cloy them out completely...and....

pssst....here's my secret, I like driving people bananas!

Happy new year everyone! Happy 2007, may you guys have aplenty of laughter, love, luck for the coming year and treasure and cherish what you have :)

From the adorable owner of this blog --> LibBy~2006 lots of hugs and kisses