Conceited, contemptuous people who takes relationships for granted ought to know something, relationships between human beings are never constant, neither is it always there, it can be broken as easily as it was first built.
Nobody waits around for people indefinitely, people linger around a while longer after break ups but that does not mean they will always be there for the heart breakers at the end of the day. So contemptuous people, whoever you are, who has nothing but excessive high regards for yourself who thinks that your ex lovers will always be there for you when you are ready, please pull up your socks and wake up and get this straight, you are replaceable and base on the fact that you only allow yourself to make the decision to get back when you are ready or work on the relationship when you are ready, you are hardly worth the wait and don't even think about it for even 1 second, you just need to know that someone as selfish and self-absorbed as you don't deserve whatever you expect.
Saturday, March 12, 2005
I just learnt that if someone trusts you, they trust you, if they don't, every negligible thing that you have said or done, which might be completely innocent but it all became so not innocent because opportunists who are there to discredit your character and personality turned things around, or added their own unjustified interpretation of what your actions meant and turn that someone against you. Basically in short everything will discredit you if someone don't trust you.
Yes maybe sometimes we will all doubt the supposedly trusted ones at a certain point based on hearsay, but at the end of the day you need to evaluate what kind of person that person who tells you about what your trusted friend has said or done is, you need to ask yourself how much do you trust that trusted friend of yours, is it enough to give him/her enough credit to trust that he/she will never say or do anything like that? If still in doubt and provided that trusted person is important enough, you probably might want to go to him/her and talk things through and see what he/she has to say before disposing them conveniently.
If the informer is some kind of double-faced whore, don't even bother about what they say really, if right from the start you have doubts in that same person, don't bother trusting him/her, because at the end of the day, the only fool will be you and your trusted friend, not them.
Yes maybe sometimes we will all doubt the supposedly trusted ones at a certain point based on hearsay, but at the end of the day you need to evaluate what kind of person that person who tells you about what your trusted friend has said or done is, you need to ask yourself how much do you trust that trusted friend of yours, is it enough to give him/her enough credit to trust that he/she will never say or do anything like that? If still in doubt and provided that trusted person is important enough, you probably might want to go to him/her and talk things through and see what he/she has to say before disposing them conveniently.
If the informer is some kind of double-faced whore, don't even bother about what they say really, if right from the start you have doubts in that same person, don't bother trusting him/her, because at the end of the day, the only fool will be you and your trusted friend, not them.
Wednesday, March 09, 2005
When you and I were babies long time ago, did we ever give up learning how to walk? Did we ever stop grasping the technique to walk like our parents? Sure, we crawled before we walked. We might have stumbled here and there, went all wobbly and fell so many times that our butts were sore but we never stopped trying did we? Yes, we were brave little beings when we entered the world, yes, just by the very fact we never stopped trying and that got us all walking around, progressing eventually to running around.
But are you still the same old you now? Well, probably not, we stopped trying a lot of different things as we grow older. Was it the naivety instilled in us then that kept us trying, was it the same set of ignorance that kept us going? I think so. It seems like as we grow older, we tend to be less courageous, we tend to restrict ourselves to trying new things, we tend to hold back a little because we need to establish what we are doing is normal so as to guarantee ourselves that we won't be laughed at if we attempt this. Of course, some of us are risk takers but like I said, its some, not all. So what is it that stole our courage away? Awareness of society's perceptions of what is normal. Perhaps it is too because, giving up without attempting is sometimes the safest option, at least you didn't try and fail and allow everyone to laugh at you but what happens if you managed to pull it off, irrespective of the consequences, you are a winner by attempting and if you pull yourself together and attempt the walk again, people will somehow never look at you the same way again. They know for a fact that you are one hell of a person, you believe in your convictions, you either give up after trying because you know its impossible, or you continue working on it till you succeed, either way, they would admire you for the strength they lack in, that is to try.
Then again there is this category of people who give up before they even try, because they received feedback from the vast majority that their ideas will never materialise because they said so and trust me half of the population let these people get to them and they give up before even trying. Well these people are certainly weaklings, yes of course, there is a fine line between striving for the impossible and the possible, but who is to say what you are attempting is impossible until you tried that out? Ignore those idiots who tells you, it is impossible because based on their experiences, that can never happen. Well to hell with them, a long time ago, people told Richard Brandson that his dream to launch Virgin Galactic is impossible, did he bother about what was said? No and in fact, he is in the midst of preparing launching Virgin Galactic in the next 5 years. Now how's that?
Criticisms, critcisms and more criticisms are what people have to offer, day and night, all year round, 365 days, 24/7, everyone just knows how to criticise without offering solutions. All they ever know is judge, judge, judge and give more and more of those useless advices, advices and more advices and all those weak people ever do is take in all that is said and stop trying. Somehow these people's calling is just to heed the advice from the supposedly wise majority and give up, they are unexceptional, and did I mention, great followers? This is too what sets entrepreneurs/leaders and employees apart. These people lack the mental fortitude to press on in whatever they believe in and hey when you believe in something, give it at least a shot, that is the least credit you can give to your own ideas and dreams.
Nobody will be there to tell you what gives you great success, you have to work hard towards it and oh yes find it first. Be innovative, creative, be different because that is what sets you apart from the rest of the pack. Nobody can predict what will happen in life and nobody should ever have a right to tell you what you should do with your life or plans you have in life, just who the hell do they think they are?
My ex hallmate, despite being naughty and crazy the way she is, she is unique and she don't really give a damn as to what people think about her. For that I respect her for who she is. She chose to do textiles and designing regardless of what others have told her like how she can make a better living after university if she was to choose a business degree or anything that is in demand but textiles and designing? What can she do with it? Well lots, if you were to ask me, she has the talent in designing clothes, talent in art and basically that is her strength, why is it that everyone don't see that and they try to make them see the world from their perspective rather than trying to see the world from her views? If she has a talent in art and designing, she could jolly well carve a niche and get a hell of a career out of designing, for all you know, she might even be the next Marc Jacobs (the female version though). She exudes differentness, a sort of charm that you don't find in everyone these days. Everyone from long long time ago wanted to be different individuals, they have their own sophiscated thoughts and ideologies, but now? Everyone is just so mainstream, adhering to society's views and the general crowd's ideas and opinions, compromising their convictions to normalcy, giving up when people tells them what they are going to embark on is impossible, giving up without even trying.
Answer, strangely, your very self. Because you allow, what the society perceives as what is normal, get to you and because you never give more credit than you actually are worth to yourself, how can you ever live a life that is fulfilling and belongs to you? Put it simply, you are living a life that is defined by people to be a life, rather than living a life that you define as life and your life that is. How much is the life defined by all others but yourself worth at face value? A grand total of, ZERO, yes repeat after me, ZERO, again let's do it together one last time, ZERO. Somebody please help me understand how not to look down on these people who lack the mental fortitude because seriously I cannot comprehend what kind of life that is. Sometimes I get so sick of seeing people compromising their views just to so call fit in when there is no such "in" for them to fit into. Striving for normalcy is sometimes just dumb, you are who you are and don't try to change the fact that you are different, you cannot just live your life like every dead dictated zombies in this pathetic world. As if a material world is not sad enough, a pathetic world where you are trying to be everyone else is just inexplicable state of hopelessness.
My advice to you all? Never stop trying. Never stop believing in yourself. Live a life not just live. Don't be afraid to be different. Live a life for yourself, not for others. Attempt on what you think is possible and screw everyone else's views, they don't matter anyway. It's hard but you'll enjoy it.
But are you still the same old you now? Well, probably not, we stopped trying a lot of different things as we grow older. Was it the naivety instilled in us then that kept us trying, was it the same set of ignorance that kept us going? I think so. It seems like as we grow older, we tend to be less courageous, we tend to restrict ourselves to trying new things, we tend to hold back a little because we need to establish what we are doing is normal so as to guarantee ourselves that we won't be laughed at if we attempt this. Of course, some of us are risk takers but like I said, its some, not all. So what is it that stole our courage away? Awareness of society's perceptions of what is normal. Perhaps it is too because, giving up without attempting is sometimes the safest option, at least you didn't try and fail and allow everyone to laugh at you but what happens if you managed to pull it off, irrespective of the consequences, you are a winner by attempting and if you pull yourself together and attempt the walk again, people will somehow never look at you the same way again. They know for a fact that you are one hell of a person, you believe in your convictions, you either give up after trying because you know its impossible, or you continue working on it till you succeed, either way, they would admire you for the strength they lack in, that is to try.
Then again there is this category of people who give up before they even try, because they received feedback from the vast majority that their ideas will never materialise because they said so and trust me half of the population let these people get to them and they give up before even trying. Well these people are certainly weaklings, yes of course, there is a fine line between striving for the impossible and the possible, but who is to say what you are attempting is impossible until you tried that out? Ignore those idiots who tells you, it is impossible because based on their experiences, that can never happen. Well to hell with them, a long time ago, people told Richard Brandson that his dream to launch Virgin Galactic is impossible, did he bother about what was said? No and in fact, he is in the midst of preparing launching Virgin Galactic in the next 5 years. Now how's that?
Criticisms, critcisms and more criticisms are what people have to offer, day and night, all year round, 365 days, 24/7, everyone just knows how to criticise without offering solutions. All they ever know is judge, judge, judge and give more and more of those useless advices, advices and more advices and all those weak people ever do is take in all that is said and stop trying. Somehow these people's calling is just to heed the advice from the supposedly wise majority and give up, they are unexceptional, and did I mention, great followers? This is too what sets entrepreneurs/leaders and employees apart. These people lack the mental fortitude to press on in whatever they believe in and hey when you believe in something, give it at least a shot, that is the least credit you can give to your own ideas and dreams.
Nobody will be there to tell you what gives you great success, you have to work hard towards it and oh yes find it first. Be innovative, creative, be different because that is what sets you apart from the rest of the pack. Nobody can predict what will happen in life and nobody should ever have a right to tell you what you should do with your life or plans you have in life, just who the hell do they think they are?
My ex hallmate, despite being naughty and crazy the way she is, she is unique and she don't really give a damn as to what people think about her. For that I respect her for who she is. She chose to do textiles and designing regardless of what others have told her like how she can make a better living after university if she was to choose a business degree or anything that is in demand but textiles and designing? What can she do with it? Well lots, if you were to ask me, she has the talent in designing clothes, talent in art and basically that is her strength, why is it that everyone don't see that and they try to make them see the world from their perspective rather than trying to see the world from her views? If she has a talent in art and designing, she could jolly well carve a niche and get a hell of a career out of designing, for all you know, she might even be the next Marc Jacobs (the female version though). She exudes differentness, a sort of charm that you don't find in everyone these days. Everyone from long long time ago wanted to be different individuals, they have their own sophiscated thoughts and ideologies, but now? Everyone is just so mainstream, adhering to society's views and the general crowd's ideas and opinions, compromising their convictions to normalcy, giving up when people tells them what they are going to embark on is impossible, giving up without even trying.
Answer, strangely, your very self. Because you allow, what the society perceives as what is normal, get to you and because you never give more credit than you actually are worth to yourself, how can you ever live a life that is fulfilling and belongs to you? Put it simply, you are living a life that is defined by people to be a life, rather than living a life that you define as life and your life that is. How much is the life defined by all others but yourself worth at face value? A grand total of, ZERO, yes repeat after me, ZERO, again let's do it together one last time, ZERO. Somebody please help me understand how not to look down on these people who lack the mental fortitude because seriously I cannot comprehend what kind of life that is. Sometimes I get so sick of seeing people compromising their views just to so call fit in when there is no such "in" for them to fit into. Striving for normalcy is sometimes just dumb, you are who you are and don't try to change the fact that you are different, you cannot just live your life like every dead dictated zombies in this pathetic world. As if a material world is not sad enough, a pathetic world where you are trying to be everyone else is just inexplicable state of hopelessness.
My advice to you all? Never stop trying. Never stop believing in yourself. Live a life not just live. Don't be afraid to be different. Live a life for yourself, not for others. Attempt on what you think is possible and screw everyone else's views, they don't matter anyway. It's hard but you'll enjoy it.
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